September 14
September Fourteen
Have you ever had one of those days when, well, you wake up tired?
And you can't seem to focus on anything.
I know that there are things that I need to be doing, I know that there are things that I absolutely have to get done....today.
And I will eventually stop procrastinating long enough to get those necessary things done.
There are other things that I want to do that I just feel that I don't have nearly enough time. Those are the things that I know that are good for me--like: I want to start walking again, but how in the world am I going to fit even 30 minutes of walking in my schedule, when I get up and I'm just barely in time for work, and I get home and all I want to do is sit down or take a nap?
It's just very difficult.
So, I think I need maybe to work on just not procrastinating so much. Can I do that later?
The one thing that helps me (a little bit), is watching YouTube videos on motivation because when you're starting out and trying to motivate yourself, there's only so much that your own voice can tell you that will motivate you.
I mean, I could tell myself: you need to try harder! But, face it: it always sounds different (and better!) coming from somebody else. It sounds more confident. Sometimes (depending on the motivational speaker) they can convince me that I really CAN do this. That I can do better, I can try something new, that I can be a better person (than that little voice inside my head is telling me that I am).
Because that little voice in my head, it's with me 24/7.
And since I can think faster than I can speak, sometimes my negative inner voice talks faster than my outside voice. Even getting that little inner voice to stop talking while someone else is giving you an opposite message, is not such an easy thing to do. If you're like me, you tend to get discouraged easily. Sometimes it doesn't take a whole lot. Maybe somebody walks into the room, I ask them how they are doing and they ignore me, or they look at me in what I perceive as a strange way.
And I tell myself that they are probably having a bad day, or I tell myself that I don't know what's happened in their life just before they walked through the door, but when you're having a bad day yourself, that little cautionary message that tells you to give them the benefit of the doubt--sometimes that doesn't pop into your head the first thing.
And so, you're left with just the bad feeling.
When did this go from being about me to about you? I have got to get myself back on track here.
I've reached the point where I tell myself, okay: it's just a thought. And if you had this thought, you can get rid of this thought. Or, if you had this negative thought, you can replace it with a positive one. BUT IT'S A LOT OF WORK!!
And it's a constant battle. Because that little voice that's in your head 24/7, it's had a long, long time to work on its routine, its habit. It's had a long time to work on this negative pattern, to develop these negative thoughts. So it really does take a daily mantra or a regular routine of morning, noon and bedtime to change these thoughts.
Here's another tip I use for myself: when I have a negative thought, stop immediately and replace it with a positive one. For example, I might say to myself: why do I always say the wrong thing to Mary? Then I catch that thought and replace it with: I don't always say the wrong thing to Mary, those are just the comments that I remember and focus on.
Today has been very introspective. Autumn always makes me slow down and think about life-changing things. Let's have a cup of hot tea--we'll sit on the porch and talk about it some more.
Have you ever had one of those days when, well, you wake up tired?
And you can't seem to focus on anything.
I know that there are things that I need to be doing, I know that there are things that I absolutely have to get done....today.
And I will eventually stop procrastinating long enough to get those necessary things done.
There are other things that I want to do that I just feel that I don't have nearly enough time. Those are the things that I know that are good for me--like: I want to start walking again, but how in the world am I going to fit even 30 minutes of walking in my schedule, when I get up and I'm just barely in time for work, and I get home and all I want to do is sit down or take a nap?
It's just very difficult.
So, I think I need maybe to work on just not procrastinating so much. Can I do that later?
The one thing that helps me (a little bit), is watching YouTube videos on motivation because when you're starting out and trying to motivate yourself, there's only so much that your own voice can tell you that will motivate you.
I mean, I could tell myself: you need to try harder! But, face it: it always sounds different (and better!) coming from somebody else. It sounds more confident. Sometimes (depending on the motivational speaker) they can convince me that I really CAN do this. That I can do better, I can try something new, that I can be a better person (than that little voice inside my head is telling me that I am).
Because that little voice in my head, it's with me 24/7.
And since I can think faster than I can speak, sometimes my negative inner voice talks faster than my outside voice. Even getting that little inner voice to stop talking while someone else is giving you an opposite message, is not such an easy thing to do. If you're like me, you tend to get discouraged easily. Sometimes it doesn't take a whole lot. Maybe somebody walks into the room, I ask them how they are doing and they ignore me, or they look at me in what I perceive as a strange way.
And I tell myself that they are probably having a bad day, or I tell myself that I don't know what's happened in their life just before they walked through the door, but when you're having a bad day yourself, that little cautionary message that tells you to give them the benefit of the doubt--sometimes that doesn't pop into your head the first thing.
And so, you're left with just the bad feeling.
When did this go from being about me to about you? I have got to get myself back on track here.
I've reached the point where I tell myself, okay: it's just a thought. And if you had this thought, you can get rid of this thought. Or, if you had this negative thought, you can replace it with a positive one. BUT IT'S A LOT OF WORK!!
And it's a constant battle. Because that little voice that's in your head 24/7, it's had a long, long time to work on its routine, its habit. It's had a long time to work on this negative pattern, to develop these negative thoughts. So it really does take a daily mantra or a regular routine of morning, noon and bedtime to change these thoughts.
Here's another tip I use for myself: when I have a negative thought, stop immediately and replace it with a positive one. For example, I might say to myself: why do I always say the wrong thing to Mary? Then I catch that thought and replace it with: I don't always say the wrong thing to Mary, those are just the comments that I remember and focus on.
Today has been very introspective. Autumn always makes me slow down and think about life-changing things. Let's have a cup of hot tea--we'll sit on the porch and talk about it some more.
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